There is no other way to put it. I need to listen better, be slower to speak. I need to try to understand what is being said to me first then respond. I can start out doing just fine, but when I feel confronted I start thinking ahead. I start twisting words to fit what I’m thinking. I would have been an excellent politician. Or at least done really well in debate in high school and college.
But talking with the wife and girls is not debate, it’s not politics either. It’s communications. And I suck at it. I’ve got a daughter going on 15 and she doesn’t tell me stuff because I don’t “listen”. My wife doesn’t tell me stuff because I don’t “listen”.
So starting today, I am going to work on being a listener. Someone who will listen, rephrase and question to understand before responding. Wish me luck, and if you believe in prayer, pray for me. This is a learned habit I am trying to break. Just like smoking, it can be overcome. I started exercising and I have lost weight. So I know I have discipline. I know I can do it. And I’m setting my mind to it.